A time to die

This last week has definately had it's earthly ups and downs. One being the earthly death of a son and brother of some of my sisters in Christ. A part of life that we all face at some time or another is death, and it is always a struggle for the living. What can be said or done to bring comfort to the loved ones still here? I don't think there is, not by our own means anyway. But it seems like we always try and attempt too anyway. We end up saying or doing so many ... well just plan stupid things. "He lived a good long life." How does that comfort her when she was married to him for 65 years and she is still here? "Well at least he didn't suffer long." Where were you when he was having his 3rd set of treatments of kimo in the last 6 months, that seemed like years? "At least he isn't suffering anymore." I know the thoughts of these comments are to try and ease some of the pain, but having heard them when I was one of the loved ones still here... I have come to a deep sense or need of being caring and careful about saying or doing anything in these matters. What can I say or do? Absolutely nothing!! But I know Who can!! And I also know that I must be 'in tune' with Him if He is going to use me. My heart has to be in the right place! I know the ones that helped me with my loses were the ones that didn't say anything to try and 'ease' the pain, they just cried with me when I cried, smiled with me when I smiled, and even laughed with me when I laughed... with that I truly saw the face of God through them. I want to be used that way by God! Less of me and MORE OF HIM!! He is the one who brings comfort! He is the one who can ease the pain! Him not me, but He can and will use me, if I let Him!! To Him be all the glory and power! Ohh sweet, sweet child how He longs to be your comfort and strength! After the beating of my 18 month old grandson, resolting in his death in March 2009 I know, I KNOW that the only true peace you can have is through God and His grace. I have Him my broken, BROKEN heart, and He now holds it!! There is a joy that comes to you when you let God hold your heart. It doesn't mean your pain goes away, but joy comes... joy comes in knowing... He has got you!!